Three Things Everyone Wants
People everywhere are seeking the reason for life, a purpose for which they live, goals to reach, and a direction to travel that leads to true happiness and fulfillment. There are three things everyone wants in life. You’ll discover them in this very helpful, and informative, study.
We come into this world. Live a few years (perhaps to the age of 70 or 80)… and then? The Bible states:
The days of our years are threescore years and ten; and if by reason of strength they be fourscore years, yet is their strength labour and sorrow; for it is soon cut off, and we fly away. Psalms 90:10
In this life we accomplish some things; and then we die.
◾Why were we born?
◾Why are we here?
◾What are we to do while we’re here?
◾Where are we going?
Is death the end of everything, or is there a brighter future possible to look forward to?
People everywhere are seeking the reason for life, a purpose for which they live, goals to reach, and a direction to travel that leads to true happiness and fulfillment.
Within the heart of every human being beats a longing (a desire) for 3 things:
1. Acceptance: We want people (relatives, friends, associates, etc.) to understand us… like us… love us… respect us… desire us … and appreciate us … (these free us from rejection).
2. Achievement: We want to accomplish something in life… to live with a good purpose in mind … one that has some direction and meaning (these bring us success… this is the opposite of failure)
3. Security: We want to feel safe and protected (to have a shelter from fear and insecurity) These desires are not new to our time, however. Throughout the record of history there have lived many people who were seeking the very same things.
Let’s look at some examples recorded in the Bible.
Below, you will find a list which contains the names of people who lived in earlier times, along with some Bible references to help you discover some of the desires each of these persons had in their life.
For whatsoever things were written aforetime were written for our learning, that we through patience and comfort of the Scriptures might have hope. Romans 15: 4
As you study these following Bible references, write down the one main desire (Acceptance, Achievement, or Security) that you think best illustrates each of the examples given below.
1. Peter (Jesus’ Disciple) Matthew 19:27
2. Job (Rich man of the East) Job 19:6, 13-19
3. The Israelites & the mixed multitude Numbers 11:4, 5
4. James & John (Jesus’ Disciples) Matthew 20:20-24
5. Aaron (Brother of Moses) Exodus 32:21-23
6. Orpah & Naomi (Two women of faith) Ruth 1:8, 14-15
7. Nebuchadnezzar (King of Babylon) Daniel 4:28-30
8. Paul (Apostle of Jesus) 2 Timothy 4:7, 8
9. Mary (Jesus’ Mother) John 2:1-3
10. Abigail (Wife of Nabal) 1 Samuel 25:14-20, 23-28
11. David (King of Israel & Judah) 1 Samuel 21:10
Use this link to see our suggested answers for the things each person, or group, listed above was seeking in life.
Now that we’ve discovered the 3 main things everyone wants, let’s go on to see if we can discover why, many times, in spite of reaching their intended goals, people still fail to feel satisfied, or experience complete fulfillment in their life.
Can you think of a reason why people who seem to have what they want in this world, often show that they still aren’t happy, and continue looking for new things in order to feel contented and complete?
Here may be a clue to help solve this mystery: Many people are often without satisfaction because they are ever trying to find away from God that which is only found by staying near to Him. To understand this better, let’s look at the 100% Fulfillment Circle below.
100% Balance Circle
The Black outer circle represents the material things people need, and often surround themselves with. The Orange middle circle represents our need of closer relationships with people… loved ones, friends, and associates that we interact with in life. The Yellow center circle represents our need for God.
God has put within each of us a desire for these things in addition to acceptance, achievement, and security.
When these things are kept balanced within us we can experience a sense of fulfillment and true happiness which brings peace, and rest to the soul.
With material things, you can work for God and help people (your family, others, and yourself) as well as make personal contributions that can benefit the world in many ways.
With close, personal, human relationships (people) you also can be a help, and a blessing, as well as receive them. It isn’t wise to try to live without people in your life.
A living relationship with God also is absolutely essential for our health and spiritual well-being.
When we were created, God placed within us the desire to worship and glorify Him. He is to be the center around which everything in our life revolves in a delicate balance. Without Him people fail to accomplish much that has any truly lasting value, and will lose it all at the end of their life.
There are at least eight different conditions people can be found in, as related to the quest of mankind for completeness in life.
Let’s look at these examples and see what can be discovered regarding them.
Consider the following Eight Circles of Life image below.
The Eight Circles of Life
100% Balance Circle
The first circle of the eight illustrates what complete fulfillment is and how it can be reached… It comes when God is in the center of your life, when you have healthy, social relationships with people around you, and when you use material things to benefit mankind, be a blessing for God, yourself, and your family. This could be considered perfection, but it is a rare thing to find in the world we presently live in. It’s the goal to strive for, however. If you keep going in that direction God can bless you with true success.
Things Only Circle
In the second circle we can discover what happens when people don’t have God in the center of their life, and don’t have (or want) close, personal, relationships with others around them. These people often surround themselves with material things, but are never fully satisfied, or feel fulfilled. They are always in search of new and better “things” to keep them happy; but they rarely find, in any lasting way through things, what they are looking for.
Things and People Circle
In the third circle we find an illustration of those who seem to have things and people, but still don’t reach a state of complete satisfaction because God is still not in the center of their life. These folks sooner or later discover that material things wear out, and human relationships are never perfect… and without God their life is not complete.
People Only Circle In the fourth circle we find the group that tries to distance themselves from both material things and God, seeking only close social relations with people; but these too fail in bringing satisfaction because mankind needs everything to be in balance in order to be complete. No one can really live without some material things, and without God’s interaction in life there would be no life. Those who try to live this way fail in reaching perfection and true happiness.
God Only Circle In the fifth circle we meet those who want only God. An example of this group might be found in those who seek a monastic existence, such as monks who live in very isolated places in order to shut out the world and “serve” God better.. These people strive to put distance between themselves and material things, but they too are left incomplete because as soon as they really begin developing a close relationship with God.
He directs them to reach out and help people, and shows them how to use material things also to be a blessing. Abandoning people and material things in life isn’t the way the Lord wants us to be closer to Him.
God and People Circle
The sixth circle shows us another imbalance. This time we find people who seemingly have placed God in the center of their life, and have chosen to keep close relationships with others, but want to distance themselves from material things. In reality, material things have been given to us to use as tools to work with. As things are now, we still need them and they are not to be rejected just because we want to know, love, and serve God (and people) more perfectly.
God and Things Circle The seventh circle represents those who have material things and choose God to be in the center of their life, but don’t have (or want, in some cases) people to associate with. An example of this situation was found at the beginning of the world when, until then, only one human being, Adam, had been created.
What was God’s response to this situation?
And the LORD God said, It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him. And out of the ground the LORD God formed every beast of the field, and every fowl of the air; and brought them unto Adam to see what he would call them: and whatsoever Adam called every living creature, that was the name thereof. And Adam gave names to all cattle, and to the fowl of the air, and to every beast of the field; but for Adam there was not found an help meet for him. And the LORD God caused a deep sleep to fall upon Adam, and he slept: and he took one of his ribs, and closed up the flesh instead thereof; And the rib, which the LORD God had taken from man, made he a woman, and brought her unto the man. And Adam said, This is now bone of my bones, and flesh of my flesh: she shall be called Woman, because she was taken out of Man. Genesis 2:18-23
God saw that man would not be complete without others around him. Even with God as his companion, and many perfect things to see and enjoy… man was designed for companionship. It was what was needed, and God provided it right in the beginning. It is also an essential thing in our time.
No God, People, or Things Circle
The eighth circle presents the saddest condition of all… people who seemingly don’t have (or possess a desire for) material things, people, or God. These are the people most in need because they are the most unfulfilled. The poor, homeless and lonely people are often found to be examples of those in this group.
In this study it is important to focus attention upon two main things: our need for the Lord to be allowed to fill the center position in our life, and the need to understand and remain balanced in the social and material areas.
If you take some time to think about each of these examples, you will, more than likely, be able to identify some people you have met, or heard about, who fit the examples given.
In each example there is offered hope for change that can lead to a new, more fulfilled, life. This can only be accomplished however, when we meet and build within God’s plan. Any attempts to feel completely fulfilled outside of the design of God will ultimately fail.
God intended us to love people and use things; but many can be found who would rather love things, and use people.
Is there a difference between these two ideas? Which of the two do you think is more important?
Some closing thoughts… One day, in the near future, if you are a true believer in God and Christ, severe circumstances in the world will dictate that you surrender your material possessions, and many human associations you have in this life.
Things will be taken away, and most of your friends and family will probably be separated from you.
The only thing that will remain to hold onto will be the close relationship you have formed with God through Jesus Christ, the only Saviour of the world.
It is essential therefore that you come to know Jesus personally, and bring balance into your life, now, while you still have time, so that in the stressful days that are coming you will have established a sure anchor for your soul; and secured, by His love and grace, an everlasting future.
An interesting addition to this critical end-time scenario is that, although we may lose contact with people, and have our material things taken away… when Jesus comes in the clouds of heaven one of the first things He will do is raise the dead to life, and bring all of His people again to be together, to live with Him forever (The Restoration of People).
After that, the redeemed will be taken to heaven where God will replace the material things that we had to give up here on the earth with new and better things that also will remain forever (The Restoration of Things).
And, we will be with God; and He will be with us. Re-established again as the center of our life (Restoration to God).
It is then that we will have a full sense of completeness, and understand the reality of God’s love, and perfection.
May God bless you to understand these things, and to pattern your life according to His better plan for your eternal life and happiness.
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This article was written and designed by Chris Teske
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